We can all relate to having to do nothing but wait.
We have had to wait on an important email.
We have had to wait on a life-changing phone call.
We have had to wait to hear if we got accepted into _____.
We have had to wait for results from _____.
We have had to wait in traffic.
We have had to wait at the airport when flights were delayed.
The hardest part about waiting is when you’re not in control of the timing.
So what do we do?
We obsessively check our email every 10 minutes.
We make sure our phone has service – because certainly he/she would have called by now?
We stress out and maybe even trigger anxiety attacks.
We lose sleep.
I remember recently, waiting to hear back from a property management company about my apartment doing all of the above and not being able to relax. I was scared I wouldn’t get approved, I was scared someone else would get my perfect, adorable, vintage Cap Hill apartment. But what the heck could I even do about it? I had to wait on a credit and reference check, and it was the weekend when I applied.
I had no choice but to wait for the outcome.
Being the assertive control-freak that I am, waiting on someone else is incredibly difficult. I always take matters into my own hands to get things done, move quickly, and can make my mind up pretty fast about nearly everything. I’m also a fast eater.
Unfortunately, the rest of this world does not run on Tiffiny Time.
And sometimes, all you can do is wait.
When you are faced with a situation where you’ve done your part, where you’ve done the work, you’ve turned in all the things by the deadline – and then you have to wait… well, that’s all you can do.
If it starts to drive you crazy, notice it. Acknowledge it. But try to also understand it.
Why is it bothering you?
What can you really do about it?
Can you accept that the outcome you want may not be the outcome you get?
If you can, then it might be easier to let go of the stress and anxiety that boils up while you wait. If you’re not, it’s understandable in. However, it could also be time to change direction, accept certain life situations, and prepare for what is next.
Recently, I waited over a month for a huge life event to happen. Everything in my world depended on it, and it was incredibly scary being that risky. I was ok with the negative outcome, and also prepared for that with backup plans and alternative (less ideal) solutions.
I also found that because most of my life was on hold until this important event was resolved. I also found the time to audit and evaluate things in my life. I found the time to re-group, re-organize, re-prioritize, and re-focus.
Although in disguise, having to wait helped me see what I had previously been too busy to see. Slowing down was what I needed. I do think the “force,” or “god,” holding things together in this world will throw a wrench in the spokes from time to time to prove a point or teach a lesson.
What lesson is your waiting trying to teach you? Stop fretting and notice it.